Being a believer, it is obligatory for us to show unconditional love, kindness, respect and obedience to our parents
And lower to them the wings of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small”. (Quran)
Islam put great emphasis upon whole of the human kind to treat ones parents with love, respect, affection and mercy. Almighty Allah has promised greater rewards both here and hereafter by serving and obeying ones parents. They are the ones who for us bear all the hardships and that too with open heart and smiling face. They did everything for us, sometimes even those which are beyond their capacity and capability.
Being a believer it is obligatory for us (me) to show unconditional love, kindness, respect and obedience to our parents. Otherwise it is impossible and beyond ones capacity and capability to thank our parents adequately for their efforts which they have done for us in the same way as we have towards Almighty Allah, that no one can repay and thank him for his bounties.
The only thing which we can do is to acknowledge our shortcomings and submit ourselves, in obedience and loyalty before our parents.
In the Holy Quran Almighty Allah mentioned respect for parents eleven times. He (SWT) has mentioned in every instance to recognize and to appreciate love and care that your parents gave to you.
Regarding this Allah (SWT) says in Holy Quran: “And we have enjoined upon man goodness to parents”.
The children must pray for their parents, the same way Allah (SWT) teaches us in the Holy Quran, “My Lord and sustainer! Be kind and have mercy on them (parents) as they cherished, nurtured and sustained me in childhood”. (Quran 17:24).
From this divine revelation we came to know that we must continue praying for our parents. Such prayer will be regarded as a continuous charity as the Holy Prophet (SAW) told us.
As being grateful to Allah (SWT) is a form of worship which earns divine rewards, be grateful to ones parents also earns divine rewards.
The status of mother in Islam is higher than father. As once “a man came to the Holy Prophet (SAW) and said, “O Messenger of Allah (SWT)! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship?” the Prophet (SAW) said: “Your Mother”. The man said, “Then who?” The Prophet (SAW) said: “your mother,” The man further asked, “then who?” The Prophet (SAW) said: “your mother”. The man asked again, “then who?” The Prophet (SAW) said: “your father”. (Bukhari/Muslim)
Once a companion came to meet the Holy Prophet (SAW) and said, “O Messenger of Allah (SAW) I want to go out and fight (in Jihad) and I have come to ask your advice”. He (SAW) said: “Do you have your mother”? He said yes. He (SAW) said: “then stay with her, for paradise is beneath her feet”. (IbnMajah 25/20)
And if beneath the feet of mother is paradise, father is the gateway to heaven. Once a companion came to the Prophet (SAW) and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have wealth and children, and my father wants to take all my wealth (to spend it on his own needs) and leave nothing”.
The Prophet (SAW) said: “you and your wealth belongs to your father”.
HazratIbn Abbas (RA) narrates that once the Holy Prophet (SAW) said, “The virtuous children who once look at their parents with love, Almighty Allah gives them the benefit of one accepted Hajj,” somebody asked, “O Prophet (SAW) if one looks hundred times like this at his parents in a day”? He (SAW) replied, “yes Allah is far greater (than you can imagine) and infallible”.
This means that nobody can estimate the scope of the grace and mercy of Almighty Allah. It is beyond human imagination to measure the scope of His bounties.
May Almighty Allah guide us all to be respectful, kind and loving towards the parents so that we be among those whom Allah guide and rewarded both here and hereafter? Ameen!
Author is a research Scholar